Things I Suck At
I came across this post format on Rachel’s blog and thought that it was a great idea. I like to keep things positive most of the time and I am an advocate of the power of positive thinking, but it’s therapeutic to get some of my flaws out there.
What’s perhaps telling is that I first drafted this post a few weeks ago and given some time to mull it over I’ve thought of more things that I suck at! When I think of yet another thing that I’m not particularly good at I don’t tend to be overly negative about it, but rather think of it as part of what makes me me. There are lots of opportunities for personal growth and development, but no-one is good at everything.
On blogs you only see one version of the truth, but no-one is perfect, and I am far from it! Maybe I can review these things and improve, or maybe I will be destined to always wear creased clothes, who knows …
1. Speaking on the phone
I loathe talking to people on the phone, which was probably why I hated the temporary job I had in a call centre a few years ago. The only people I really feel comfortable talking to are my parents and Peter. I think the main reason is that I’m worried that I’m going to be interrupting the person I’m phoning and they won’t want to talk to me. I know that’s irrational, but maybe I am just a little bit crazy.
2. Anything creative
At school I was always good at the more academic subjects, but I sucked at anything creative like art, textiles, woodwork etc. Once I messed up a hat that I was making so badly that my very kind teacher took it home to unpick it and sew it correctly for me – I was a bit of a lost cause.
I’m seeking some sort of redemption by learning to knit, but I haven’t got very far yet. I wish I was crafty. I look on jealously as my housemate is making all sorts of stuff for her wedding, but I would never have the competence or patience to do it.
3. Spatial awareness
I blame my astigmatism, but that’s probably a poor excuse. I can’t do any puzzles where you have to rearrange shapes or recognise patterns. I hate jigsaws with a passion for the same reason. My friends like to wind me up my doing them in front of me, so I have to escape to a darkened room.
I love yoga and there are all sorts of benefits that it has brought me over the past few years, but I have seen minimal improvement in my flexibility. I’m just not built that way. Sometimes I have to giggle at myself when I’m sat in a crumpled mess while everyone else is stretched out.
Of course there are bits that are more flexible than others, for example I enjoy forward bends and most twists. Back bends and anything involving hamstring flexibility are really tough for me. I also suck at balances, but I’m sure I can work on that.
Most things don’t need to be ironed in my opinion. I’m only half ashamed to admit that if they do need ironing I take them home to my Mum. I’m 28 and she lives 80 miles away.
6. Living in the moment
I talked about this one in my meditation post, and it’s something that I’m actively working on.
I will avoid any sort of conflict and very rarely get into arguments with anyone. Even as a teenager I didn’t really argue with my parents because it made me very uncomfortable. At the most there was an occasional door-slam. When I do get into disagreements I tend to get emotional rather than angry and I just want to run away. I suspect that Peter finds this a bit irritating and I can be passive aggressive sometimes.
Again, this is something I’m working on, so that if I’m genuinely not happy with something and it’s worth speaking up I will try to say something before I allow emotion and resentment to build up.
8. Organising events
I prefer being the guest rather than the host, because I find organising events very stressful and uncomfortable. What if nobody comes? What if it’s a disaster? I was volunteered to organise a networking event at work and it’s going ok, but I can’t say that I’m enjoying it.
Can you relate to any of these?
What do you suck at? (not too much self-flagellation though – you’re all awesome!)